Video of the Month: July 
NIM is pleased to offer you an opportunity to
find
answers to some very difficult questions,
many of which are heard through our
Intensive
Programs. This month's
question is "I feel my husband is too hard on
the children. How should I address this?"
By Christine Arnzen, NIM Clinical Director &
Intensive Marriage Counselor
As a
follower of Christ for over 30 years, I
continue to be amazed by God timing. It is
rare that I can make sense of His timing in
the moment. It isn't until I look back and
contemplate the events of the day, week,
months and sometime years that I come to
realize God's timing is perfect. Like many,
I live a fast paced busy life and if I am not
careful, I can be active from the time I wake
up to the time I go to bed. Over the last
four months, I have sensed a calling on my
life to take time to contemplate God's
timing. To me this means to be more
observant, watchful and expectant of God's
work in my life and in order to answer this
call, it requires me to slow down.
Finding Ever After, by Dr. Robert Paul,
Co-President of the National Instiute of
Marriage offers couples a new way to look at
communication and offers new insight on how
to care for your marriage. In one chapter,
Dr. Paul suggests that couples need to look
at the way they communicate with their spouse
in two forms: "Work Talk" and "Heart Talk".
"Work Talk" can be defined as normal everyday
conversation, for instance, who's picking the
kids up from school today? "Heart Talk" on
the other hand can be defined as
communicating with your spouse about matters
of the heart, for instance, when one spouse
feels like he/she isn't being appreciated or
understood. By making a conscious effort to
look at the way you communicate with your
spouse, Dr. Paul believes you can approach
more intimate conversations with greater care.
